I'm her friend. She talks to me sometimes about her marriage problems.
She's a nice lady. She goes to church. She prays and reads her Bible.
But ... she's an adulteress!
Ooooh! She hates that word. She doesn't want me to say that. But, it's true.
As I write these words, I'm thinking of at least five women that these words
describe. All of them are involved In a different set of circumstances ... but, the truth
is ...
... THEY ARE ALL ADULTERESSES! One of the women is already having an emotional
affair with another man. But, she hasn't sinned yet ... she thinks.
She has no true grounds for divorce but she will get what she wants. She is determined
not to sin sexually until she is free to do so.
Her reason for the divorce is that she wants and needs more love and romance. Harlots
of all ages started out that way. Women that were unfaithful within the marriage before
divorce started out that way. But, this woman is noble. She is going to sin against her
husband and family IN THE PROPER WAY!
When Mother's Day comes around again, we ought to call her to the front of the church
and tell everyone that she took the proper measures In sinning against her children. She
was considerate and self-sacrificing. She held her -true desires -in until after the
divorce and even for many months after that.
We could also give her a plaque which says, "She ripped her children from the
loving arms of a good father, because of her great need to 'be loved'.'
If she suffers any emotional turmoil during the process of divorce we can comfort her
with these words. "It's o.k. You went for a long, long time without being
sufficiently loved by your husband. Now it's your children's turn to cry themselves to
sleep because the man they once loved is no longer there for them. After all, it's his
fault. He wasn't there for you when you needed him emotionally. And when one suffers, we
must all suffer. Besides, children can take it. They are stronger than adults. It's o.k.
Go for what you want. Don t worry about them. The Heavenly Father will take care of them. HE
CARES!
But, this woman doesn't understand. Even when you do It the right way. Even when you
wait for a long time to get remarried. Kids can think. Kids can imagine.
And when they think of you being remarried to another man. They often Imagine the
sexual union also. And no matter how the transition takes place, they still see their own
mother going to bed with two different men. Don't tell me this doesn't have any effect on
them.
"And that which we allow in moderation, our children will allow in full
measure."
So why don't you just go ahead and tell them out loud, "if one man doesn't satisfy
your needs ... go for another."
are chicken! Absolutely chicken. You think it would be wrong
to tell your kids that. Why would you be wrong in telling them that? BECAUSE IT IS
WRONG ... THAT'S WHY!' Now, go ahead and tell yourself it's wrong. And tell yourself
that you don't care and that you want to do what's wrong! Go ahead. Tell yourself the
truth! Tell yourself that this is a deadly sin against the family and that you are
willfully planning sin out In your mind.
Yes. You can plan on being forgiven by God. This man used to ask God for
forgiveness every time he was guilty of drunken driving. But the last accident he had
killed a little girl. Will she forgive him In the judgement? Will the parents forgive him?
Will he forget? Will he forgive himself?
The next man you get may be a nice man. He may be good looking. He may be kind and
considerate. He may be very loving.
I know several young and very good looking Christians who are very guilty of giving
baths to their kids and step kids. And in their own loving way, they gently began
molesting innocent kids who didn't know anything was wrong with this kind of behavior.
And if the day comes when you are not there for this man. And if you don't give him
everything that he thinks he needs when he thinks he needs it... then he may lovingly
seduce your teenage girl and warp her mind for a long, long time.
And the girl will think, My daddy would have never done this to me." And no matter
how you justify your present plans ... extreme guilt.... will conveniently creep
into bed with you night after night. Condemnation will be there for you .... will be there
for you ... will be there for you ... will be there for you... whether you want it
or not.
Jesus came not to condemn the world. He won't condemn you then. And I won't either. I
will do my best to try to help you and the kids both. That's my work and ministry. I'm
just getting tired of working on this end of the problem. I would like to avert tragedy if
I can. I would like to prevent sin and it's consequences both.
I wish you could see everything that God sees. I wish you could understand. I wish you
could see the value in 'laying down your life for Christ and others" I wish
............
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